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bub |
Re: Does Soldier of Pain Know? | #1 | ||
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Hi lynne..I know this isnt much consulation...about 20 years ago one of my familys best friends did the same thing...It was veyr hard on the family...especially the daughters...the 14 and 16 at the time...my wife and I have always been honnary aunt and uncle...to this day the girls visit often and we stay in constant contact...we dance around the end...but we still revist the good times...I know they will never get over it but family and friends support means everything to the girls...Im sorry to say I didnt know the man, but Im sure since you did it would mean a lot to the family to have your continued support...please offer my sympathy and prayers..
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out2lunch |
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Hi Lynne, and all who follow!
I would've told Soldier of Pain, but don't have his addy. I'm sure if he's like most here and keeps stopping by to read here and there, that he already knows! I became very close with Boxer Rex and his family, and still keep intouch with his wife. I'm still in shock, and can't believe there'll never be a nice long chat with hiim again!! I feel an emptiness I can't even explain, and can only imagine what his family's going through! I'm going to send his wife (Kelli) an email as soon as I'm done here...just to check up on her! Hurtis (Boxer Rex) left a young boy and girl behind too!! Lynne is so right, in that he didn't feel that he was there or good enough for those kids...or his wife for that matter! Chronic pain took his life, and nothing else!! Yes there was depression, but it goes hand in hand with cp right? I tried over and over to get him to see that his family loved him and only thought of what he could still do, not what he couldn't, but he just couldn't get the thoughts out of his head! I guess I'm feeling worse 'cause I'd spoke with him on this subject for days, and got too busy to get online...next I knew, he was gone!! You're not the only one that feels maybe you could've done something Lynne! I can't help but wonder if he'd been looking for me that day? I know the last time I spoke with him, he kept saying that he was no good for his kids nor his wife...how he felt that she was looking at him in disgust, and his kids were embarrassed to have him for a father 'cause he couldn't do what most fathers do etc. It just broke my heart!! I really wish things didn't get so hectic around here then 'cause MAYBE I could've prevented this?? It's times like this that I find myself wishing that we all lived closer to eachother! That way we'd be alot closer then miles, therefore able to be there in person whenever needed, know what I mean? Well, enough rambling from me LOL! I'm going to go check on his wife and kids now. I just hope there's something I can do to help them through!! Luv & ((HUGS)) to all!! ps...for those contemplating the same thing...please think of those you'll leave behind and how they'll handle it first ok? Concentrate on the positive in your life, not the neg!!! you're friend
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oldoldman(d) |
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I only had a couple of chances to talk with Boxer Rex and this must have been before he went off the deep end in his mind. I have said it before and I will say it again. The mental end of our chronic pain can be far worse than our actual physical pain. Anyone who sits and broods what lot in life that has been handed them is going to drift to these type of thoughts. I will not mention any names of ones here, but I have often thought to myself that they are starting to go down that dark narrow tunnel that once you do there is no turning around. You would be surprised just changing a schedule as to how you do things from day to day will also cause a hiccup in those bad thoughts. Do things in a different way. Do not let yourself get into such a schedule that you don't have to stop and think what you are doing. Try to keep things fresh. Don't gripe because you have a appointment. Look at that appointment as a way up and out of your current crisis. When you can't sleep, find a computer game to play. Do anything different to occupy that bad time. It's there and you can't stop it but use it in a way you haven't tried before. I've been there and know I will be there again, but I have made up my mind that I am going to win. No matter how small the victory may be, it is still a victory. I'm not going to sit at my computer desk with my head in my hands and lament about it. I will not feel sorry for myself any longer because there is nothing I can do about it. Taking a way out like that only hurts and injures that ones that really love you. It is you that has decided that they don't. I love each and one of my chronic pain friends here and wish I could flash a magic wand and everyone would be cured but the main word here is "wish." Hug your family, tell them you love them, don't let the demons win. Everyone of you are the same person you were before this crap hit, it just takes a lot of adjustment on everyones part. I am not saying to make anyone mad or to hurt anyone. I just feel at times things needs to be alittle bit tougher in our replies to each other.
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| BOXER REX | 06/05/06 07:23:58 | weelynne |
| Re: I'm sorry Lynne | 06/05/06 10:43:20 | cyn999 |
| hi cyn | 06/06/06 02:30:54 | weelynne |
| Does Soldier of Pain Know? | 06/06/06 03:16:32 | weelynne |
| Re: Does Soldier of Pain Know? | 06/06/06 04:59:33 | bub |
| Re: Does Soldier of Pain Know? | 06/07/06 14:51:49 | out2lunch |
| Re: Does Soldier of Pain Know? | 06/07/06 15:33:23 | oldoldman(d) |
| BUB | 06/08/06 04:22:57 | weelynne |
| Hurtis/Boxer Rex | 02/13/07 15:01:07 | out2lunch |
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